“Someday.” What a wishy-washy weasel-y, weak word. Be wary of this word coming out of your own mouths or pens–because here’s what it really means: never. “Someday” is married to “I can’t.” They live unhappily ever after.
Movement forward is a good thing, in my model of the world. What I sell is movement, and change. Belief change, behavioral change. Life change. Useful and desired and WONDERFUL change. “Someday” is a holding in place word, not a movement word. “Do it!” “Doing it!” that’s movement. Someday…I’ll quit smoking. Someday…I’ll get my body in shape. Someday…blah blah blah. Someday never comes.
I love my teachers. One in particular, Dr. Richard Bandler, the co-creator of Neuro-Linguistic Programming™. Yesterday was his birthday. He got literally hundreds of well wishes from fans and friends across the globe on his Facebook page. One girl wrote to him: “I will take one of your trainings and meet you someday.” I’m sure he was underwhelmed by that. I would be. It means “never.”
When I took Design Human Engineering™ with Richard and his co-trainer, John LaValle, last year, here’s one of the ideas that got well installed: “Just f****** do it!!” It being movement towards a well formed outcome, a goal, what you want in life. I hear John’s voice in my ear often, propelling me forward. I’ll have to thank him again for that! 🙂
My favorite songwriter, Smokey Robinson, said the same thing in a softer way in the lyrics of one of his best songs (More Love): “Let it be soon. Don’t hesitate. Make it now. Don’t wait…”
To me it’s so simple. If you want something (sufficiently), you do it. You make it happen. I don’t “do” someday. Why would anyone? Why not shift “someday” into “now?”