{"id":501,"date":"2010-05-20T20:55:31","date_gmt":"2010-05-20T20:55:31","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/mindworkshypnosis.net\/hypnotizer\/?p=501"},"modified":"2013-06-09T15:15:17","modified_gmt":"2013-06-09T22:15:17","slug":"super-secret-nlp-habit-busting-technique","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mindworkshypnosis.net\/hypnotizer\/2010\/05\/20\/super-secret-nlp-habit-busting-technique\/","title":{"rendered":"Super Secret NLP Habit-Busting Technique"},"content":{"rendered":"

Hello, Hypnotic Friends!<\/p>\n

The topic today is habits — habitual behaviors that we engage in almost without thinking.\u00a0 Learned behaviors which now flow.\u00a0 Too easily, sometimes.\u00a0 Sometimes habits are good.\u00a0 Like bathing.\u00a0 Like using deodorant.\u00a0 Like brushing your teeth.<\/p>\n

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Like looking both ways before crossing the street.\u00a0 Sometimes habits are bad.\u00a0 Say, smoking.\u00a0 Or a\u00a0“cookie addiction.”\u00a0 Or any other kind of addiction, sex, alcohol, spending, gambling, and so on.\u00a0 Or any number of other unhealthy or unwanted or self destructive behaviors, which lead to an outcome we’d rather not come out to.\u00a0 \ud83d\ude42<\/div>\n
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Actually, those words, bad and good habits, are misleading.\u00a0 There are NO good habits and there are no bad habits.\u00a0 I use those words for convenience and understanding because they’re out there in the vernacular, out there in common usage.\u00a0 The truth is, there are only useful habits and non-useful habits.<\/div>\n
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Cool thing is, we get to\u00a0decide what that is.\u00a0 If a habit is useful, go with it.\u00a0 Enjoy.\u00a0 Live.\u00a0 Love.\u00a0 Be happy.\u00a0 If a habit, however, is not useful, or no longer useful,\u00a0we can\u00a0identify that, know that, and change it!\u00a0 Here’s another one of those self-empowering ideas.\u00a0 We can change our habits.\u00a0 Yes, we can.\u00a0 We are not victims in this life–we make the rules.\u00a0 You and me.\u00a0 We can get into the habit of breaking habits, when it’s useful to do so.\u00a0 And I’m going to lead you through a simple process in this essay to\u00a0do just that!<\/div>\n
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We’ll take a “simple” unwanted behavior.\u00a0 How about something from my own life.\u00a0 Sugar?\u00a0 Bakery goods?\u00a0 Brownies?\u00a0 Hmmm,\u00a0I know–candy.\u00a0 Chocolate.\u00a0 Hershey bars.<\/div>\n

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I used to\u00a0have a habit.\u00a0 It was called “eat\u00a0candy bars.”\u00a0 Anytime, all the time, just about every day or so.\u00a0 Primarily, Hershey’s with almonds.\u00a0 I’d get the little bars, and I’d also get those giant sized bars, 8 oz, which I\u00a0think nowadays cost more and are 4 oz.\u00a0 Still called “giant” sized, however.\u00a0 I guess it’s all in your perspective.\u00a0\u00a0And I’d eat the whole thing–eventually.\u00a0 In a day or two.\u00a0\u00a0And then I’d buy more.\u00a0 Bad habit, right?\u00a0 Maybe, maybe not.\u00a0 I’m sure the Hershey company, and the Nestle company, and the M&M Mars company, thought it was a GREAT habit, and loved me for it.\u00a0 But for ME, I decided that it was not useful.\u00a0 I decided to shift that habit, as it became a non-useful habit when I decided to get healthy and consume less calories and less sugar and transform my body.<\/div>\n
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I decided!\u00a0 Eating candy bars:\u00a0 non useful habit.\u00a0 Let’s change it!<\/div>\n
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Here’s a simple NLP process to do just that.\u00a0 NLP, again, is Neuro-Linguistic Programming ™ which is a “high tech hypnosis.”\u00a0 It’s also been called, aptly, “hypnosis on steroids.”\u00a0 I love my NLP, as taught to me by the Master of Masters, the creator, Dr. Richard Bandler.\u00a0 He taught me, and I’m teaching you.\u00a0 Here and now.\u00a0 Behold!\u00a0 A habit-busting technique that is so simple and straightforward, perhaps it will become a new habit of yours to use it.\u00a0 And bust any non utilitarian habits.\u00a0 Until they invent a Bad-habit-be-gone-spray-in-a-can, this is the next best thing.\u00a0 Psssssst.<\/div>\n
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But, before I get into the process, one more story.\u00a0 I went to a “weight loss hypnosis” talk the other day and it involved imagining bugs\/maggots\/disgusting vermin crawling on my donut to get me to change my behavior as regards donuts.\u00a0 This is NOTHING like that.\u00a0 I find THAT suggestion disgusting, the idea that we need to get uncomfortable about things in order\u00a0to change.\u00a0 False!\u00a0 That’s ill-formed and wrong-directional.\u00a0 You don’t need to do that.\u00a0 Thing is, you may want to enjoy a donut or piece of donut sometime in your life.\u00a0\u00a0I don’t believe in taking that opportunity away, or making people feel sick!!\u00a0\u00a0We’re not attaching negativity to the thing, which decreases or limits your choices, we’re enlarging your choices so that it’s easier to choose healthy and useful habits.<\/div>\n
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Ok.\u00a0 The chocolate bar.\u00a0 I used to be able to put myself into a state of desire.\u00a0 Wanting it.\u00a0 Which then led to buying and eating it.\u00a0 Create a picture in your mind that represents\u00a0a negative habit and your wanting to do it.<\/div>\n
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We all have desires all the time that we don’t act on.\u00a0 I had a co-worker once who would have benefited by a slap upside the head.\u00a0 I wanted to do that, on occasion.\u00a0 Did I?\u00a0 No.\u00a0 Never.<\/div>\n
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Sometimes I have a desire to stay in bed beyond an appropriate time.\u00a0 Do I?\u00a0 No.\u00a0 I get up.\u00a0 Sometimes, a scene in a movie is so absurd I want to shout something derogatory out at the screen in the theater.\u00a0 Do I?\u00a0 No.\u00a0 Sometimes, I see a good looking\u00a0stranger at the gym, and I feel like running up and squeezing his bicep…do I?\u00a0 No.\u00a0 We all have desires which we know perfectly well we will not act on.\u00a0 Create a picture in your mind that represents a temptation or desired behavior that you\u00a0KNOW you will not act on.<\/div>\n
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Notice everything about that picture–the thing you will not do, the line in the sand as it were.\u00a0 You won’t cross it.\u00a0 You know you won’t do this thing, even though you’d like to.\u00a0\u00a0As you study the picture, notice it’s size, shape, location, color or black and white, movement, focus, brightness, clarity, everything.\u00a0 Memorize those qualities of the picture.\u00a0 Qualities of the picture are like the options in a photo editing software.\u00a0 You’re not\u00a0looking at\u00a0the content in any way, you’re\u00a0noticing the qualities such as focus and color.<\/div>\n
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Now, take the picture of the unwanted behavior, and match it to those qualities of the “won’t do it” picture.\u00a0 Every one!\u00a0 Size, color, focus, etc.\u00a0 And stick this picture right in the space of the “won’t do it” picture, like two pieces of music on a music stand.\u00a0 Imagine yourself not doing this thing, and the positive outcomes flowing from that change.\u00a0 In my case, not eating the candy leads to a smaller body, more energy, more money in my pocket, and feeling good!\u00a0 Lock in the picture of the unwanted behavior into the “won’t do it” position.\u00a0 Click your teeth, or snap your fingers, or say “that’s right” and tell your mind to keep it there.\u00a0 Sometimes I imagine splashing a bucket of shellac over the top of the picture as a sealant for the new qualities.<\/div>\n
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Top secret NLP insight:\u00a0 When you change how you represent a situation or problem in your mind, the situation changes!\u00a0 Read that sentence again.\u00a0 Let it seep in.<\/div>\n
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Now, step back and think of yourself and the unwanted behavior.\u00a0 In this case, you may notice that the temptation to do the thing that USED to be a bad habit has shifted, into something you simply won’t do.\u00a0 Not a struggle.\u00a0 Simply a sense of No!\u00a0 I won’t do that.\u00a0\u00a0Freedom!\u00a0 You speak the holy word (for Star Trek officiandos, name that episode!).<\/div>\n
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Play with this and let me know how you do!\u00a0 And, as always, if you’d like to learn more cool NLP techniques and processes, here’s how:\u00a0 http:\/\/www.seattlenlptraining.com<\/a>.\u00a0 In fact, Michael and I have three 1-day seminars next month, which is a fabulous introduction to the power of NLP.\u00a0 One seminar focuses on life change, one on sales and business success, and one on self hypnosis.\u00a0 C’mon down and learn more.\u00a0 You know you want to!<\/div>\n
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Warm Regards,<\/div>\n
Connie<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Hello, Hypnotic Friends! The topic today is habits — habitual behaviors that we engage in almost without thinking.\u00a0 Learned behaviors which now flow.\u00a0 Too easily, sometimes.\u00a0 Sometimes habits are good.\u00a0 Like bathing.\u00a0 Like using deodorant.\u00a0 Like brushing your teeth. Like looking both ways before crossing the street.\u00a0 Sometimes habits are bad.\u00a0 Say, smoking.\u00a0 Or a\u00a0“cookie […] <\/p>\n

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