{"id":2843,"date":"2012-08-08T08:32:10","date_gmt":"2012-08-08T15:32:10","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/mindworkshypnosis.net\/hypnotizer\/?p=2843"},"modified":"2013-06-07T09:40:30","modified_gmt":"2013-06-07T16:40:30","slug":"problems-a-vanishing-act","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mindworkshypnosis.net\/hypnotizer\/2012\/08\/08\/problems-a-vanishing-act\/","title":{"rendered":"Problems: A Vanishing Act"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Find your confidence with hypnosis & NLP.<\/dd>\n<\/dl>\n

Hi, Hypno-Friends!<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

Here is another story.\u00a0 \ud83d\ude42\u00a0 A client came in to enhance her business success.\u00a0 Her problem?\u00a0 A feeling of not being “good enough” or “smart enough” — in a nutshell, a lack of confidence.\u00a0\u00a0 She found herself feeling anxious and unable to speak up during business meetings–even when she had valuable things to say.<\/p>\n

I found out what she wanted instead.\u00a0 We began the work.\u00a0 Suddenly, she burst out angrily at me:<\/p>\n

“Why are you laughing?\u00a0 You’re trivializing my problem.”<\/p>\n

I answered her:\u00a0 “That’s right.\u00a0 I am.\u00a0 And so will you.\u00a0 It IS trivial.\u00a0 Ridiculous, in fact.”<\/p>\n

That’s what we want to create!\u00a0 A “problem” so small and trivial that you can’t even see it or experience it.\u00a0 When she feels more confident and “good enough,” in fact, there is no problem.\u00a0 It dissolves.<\/p>\n

What she didn’t yet realize is that the work was already unfolding and being successful\u2026we were working on confidence building.\u00a0 The presenting problem:\u00a0 she was unable to speak her mind.\u00a0 Yet, suddenly, here she was speaking her mind, to me.\u00a0 Loud and clear.\u00a0\u00a0 Yay!<\/p>\n

I’m remembering an episode of Star Trek.\u00a0 (I LOVED that show.)\u00a0 In it there was an alien creature which fed on negative emotion.\u00a0 The more angry and violent negative emotions it could generate in the people around it, the stronger it got.\u00a0 When Kirk & Spock et. al. started laughing (with the help of Dr. McCoy and his “laughing gas”) well the monster weakened and decided to leave.<\/p>\n

Here’s what clients begin to understand via my work with them:\u00a0 A problem is not REAL.\u00a0 It is conjured in the mind and body.\u00a0 It is merely a frame of mind, a way of thinking.\u00a0\u00a0 And that is very, very subject to change.\u00a0 A problem can be reframed\u00a0 to the point it is un-conjured.\u00a0 That’s what we do in my office.<\/p>\n

When the woman left, she commented that her breathing felt easier.\u00a0 We tested her new responses.\u00a0 She thought the previously “anxious-making” thoughts, and anxiety was a no-show.\u00a0 Her body language had changed, as well.\u00a0 She was speaking louder and sitting taller.\u00a0 Her eye contact was more direct.\u00a0 I notice these things.\u00a0 Confidence seeds sprouting all over.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 I guess it really was a trivial non-problem after all, wasn’t it?<\/p>\n

Warm Regards,
\nConnie
\nhttp:\/\/www.seattlehypnosisforconfidence.com<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Find your confidence with hypnosis & NLP. Hi, Hypno-Friends! Here is another story.\u00a0 \ud83d\ude42\u00a0 A client came in to enhance her business success.\u00a0 Her problem?\u00a0 A feeling of not being “good enough” or “smart enough” — in a nutshell, a lack of confidence.\u00a0\u00a0 She found herself feeling anxious and unable to speak up during business […] <\/p>\n

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