I hope you’re having some happy holidays, and more to come! Wishing you and yours a fun and glorious 2011. Resolve to enjoy life more and more every day. I’m about to share with you all a simple technique that is the backbone and my favorite “magic” of NLP–something which drives home like a jackhammer the idea that you control your own life, mind and body. Specifically, I’m going to share with you a touch of calm, for the holidays!
NLP is Neuro-Linguistic Programming ™, a term coined by my teacher, Dr. Richard Bandler. It’s a way of understanding the world and how we create reality. And can change it. It’s about enhancing communication, inside ourselves and with others. For more info on what it is and the myriad of powerful and wonderful uses of NLP, you can check out my primary NLP website: http://www.seattlenlptraining.com.
How would you like to communicate to your own mind: “It’s time to relax!” And have it actually happen in your body in an instant? (Your wish is my command!) Wouldn’t that be especially useful this time of year, with all the turbulence of wild weather, traffic, ice, work demands, family and extended family, parties, gift shopping, holidays, STRESS?
Here it is! It’s called an “anchor” in NLP parlance. It’s a stimulus-response mechanism, which we can capture and activate at will. With intention. So many times we are stimulated to a response (one we don’t particularly want or enjoy) by living and events. Examples: Your significant other starts using THAT critical tone of voice, and your body temperature rises. You see a chocolate bar and the cravings kick in. You smell popcorn, and you know you NEED a bucket. How nice to create a stimulus-response in ourselves that we like. And use it for…A Touch of Calm. Apply as needed.
Here’s a technique for you.
Begin to remember a time in your life when you felt calm. I mean REALLY calm. Relaxed, with clarity of mind. In that precise moment of time, nothing could ruffle your feathers. Pick a memory from anywhere and anytime in your life, in any context, from childhood, to adulthood. In the hot tub, snuggled in bed, on the beach in Hawaii, in hypnotic trance, jogging, it doesn’t matter. Let your mind remember CALM. Now, put yourself inside that memory, that experience. Be there now!
Experience it. What’s going on? How do you feel? What do you see? What do you hear? What do you smell? Involve all your senses, fully and completely. Let calm grow in you. Feel calm moving in your body. Flow it, grow it. Stronger. When calm is just about at its peak, and you’re feeling really good, touch the tips of your thumb and ring finger of your left hand together and hold for one second. Let go. Think about something else for a moment or two, some neutral thing, and then imagine yourself again inside the calm memory. Feel it. Breathe it. Once again, flow calm through every nerve and fiber of your body. When you feel good and calm, touch the thumb and fingertip again. Hold for a second, and let go. This unique touch is now associated (anchored) with calm. This touch will elicit calm! In your body. Forever. Just that fast, you’ve trained your mind/body to do that! How cool is that? This is why Michael and I call NLP “The Magic of Instant Change.”
Now, whenever you want a dose of calm to flood your body, touch that same thumb and finger together and hold it (for a minute or so) in the way you’ve just anchored, and feel calm return. Automatically! Feeling stressed by Aunt Sue’s conversation at the party? Touch and hold. 🙂 Stuck in mall traffic and beginning to grit your teeth? Touch and hold. Standing in an endless line at the supermarket and feeling irritated? Touch and hold. Joe at work pushing your buttons? Push your own. You now are armed with “a touch of calm” for the holidays. And any time. Enjoy!
|Connie Brannan, Master Hypnotist
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