- Flexibility for the Win!
Everyone’s talking about “New Year’s Resolutions.” But how do we actually create newness and change?
With hypnosis and NLP, you can change how you think, and how you feel about things. You can change how you see things, and even what you believe to be true.
And, all this leads to what’s really important: you can change your behaviors, change what you do in the world. And what you don’t do.
I have a favorite quote from comedian, George Carlin. He’s talking about words and the perplexity of words. We have words to describe burnability: something is flammable, something is nonflammable, or something is inflammable. Carlin says, why three choices? “Either the thing flams or it doesn’t!”
That’s funny. That’s also called digital thinking. Yes, no, on off. When you change to thinking along a continuum, you open up an infinity of new choices. More choices, equals more flexibility, equals more success. In short, hypnosis finds and gives you more choice.
There’s an expression in NLP: “the one with the most flexibility wins.” Behavioral flexibility is the holy grail. It’s what we want and seek for our clients and ourselves. If you’re not flexible, you’re rigid, stiff, always doing what you’ve always done. You’re stuck! Lao Tzu (ancient philosopher) said: “Bend like a reed in the wind – that is the real strength. The old hard tree breaks and falls when the wind blows. The young tree bends and does not break.” Hypnosis opens up unstuck, also called choice, also called flexibility.
Here’s a real world example. I had a client yesterday who gravely informed me that he’s an “addict” to cigarettes. Now, that’s a STUCK statement. He’s trapped! He’s done. Put him in his coffin. An addict can’t quit smoking, by definition. We used hypnosis & NLP to change how he sees himself, and when the label “addict” left, so did a restriction on his choices.
In one piece of our work, we asked the creative unconscious mind to come up with completely healthy alternative behaviors to replace smoking. The unconscious can do that in a heartbeat, and did. Now, there are many new options available to him, behaviorally. And we enticed his mind to put those new choices into action. This pulled the rug out from under being “addicted” to smoking. Now he has the freedom to say “no way in hell” to cigarettes. And he did. We created a new nonsmoker yesterday.
If you’re stuck in a behavior, in a habit, a pattern, a way of thinking, feeling, or being that does not serve you…there are more choices than you can currently see. Hypnosis can open up that trap, let you out of the cage and into the sunlight of infinite resourcefulness.